There you are, staring in the mirror, doing your routine look up and down.
As you take in what you see, the record player starts.
You fill your head with negative thoughts, judgmental statements, and harsh criticism.
Perhaps you sulk for a while or maybe you come up with a “plan.”
Today I am just going to have a smoothie for breakfast, after my early morning workout.
And then I’ll pack a salad for lunch.
And then I’ll meet a friend at the gym.
And then I’ll go home, eat a healthy dinner, and go to bed early.
And then I’ll wake up and do it all over again.
Oh, and you will come up with guidelines…
- Stay Hydrated
- Portion Control
- Limit Snacking
- Exercise Everyday
Stop Right Here.
What’s wrong with early mornings, nutritious food, and being active?
There is something wrong with tearing yourself apart. There is something wrong with telling yourself you are anything but beautiful. There is something wrong with making “healthy” choices when they stem from a place of darkness.
When you are choosing to do those things for the wrong reasons, you are ultimately punishing yourself. You are putting yourself in a box and holding yourself to unreasonable standards.
Because no matter what, you are the most beautiful version of yourself right now. You are the truest form of yourself right. this. second.
That picture of you in a bikini three years ago? Yes, you look fantastic. Yes, you worked your ass off everyday to look that great. But, you aren’t the same person you were three years ago. You don’t face the same challenges. You don’t have the same routine. And your body is always changing, just like you are.
Life isn’t predictable.
And working out everyday isn’t going to happen.
And salad for lunch is going to get boring.
And you won’t always wake up on time or go to bed early.
Now I can sit here all day and tell you to love yourself. And from the bottom of my heart I wish I could make you.
I could tell you that with time and age you will develop a sense of confidence that makes all the imperfections invisible.
Or that one day it will all just click.
Instead I simply want to clarify.
Not all healthy habits are healthy.
Do you even like kale?
Would you have given up whole-wheat pasta if the world hadn’t convinced you carbs were awful?
Do you enjoy lifting weights? Or even the gym?
Why do you run every morning? Is it because you truly love the feeling of being out in the fresh air or is it because you will beat yourself up if you don’t lace up?
Where’s the line? When are you actually making honest, good decisions for your body and when are you pushing yourself to a place of obsession and harm?
I don’t care HOW many pounds you think you need to lose. I don’t care WHAT size jeans you are currently fitting or not fitting into.
What I do care about is how you are treating yourself, both mentally and physically.
There is an abundance of ways to live an active healthy lifestyle. You don’t HAVE to do anything to prove yourself worthy. And I promise you there is no secret cure or magic trick.
Actually, if you keep trying to do “the right way” you are going to just be fighting an uphill battle. Because nobody sustained a long-term healthy lifestyle doing something they hated.
Do you need to make smart choices when it comes to what you are eating? Absolutely.
And should you be active in your daily life? Of course.
But you need to do what is going to make you happy and confident.
And I promise you, no woman ever felt happy or confident after telling herself she needed to lose five pounds every day when she looked in the mirror.